How to be successful while staying true to yourself

Is that even possible to achieve? Let’s see.

Being successful AND staying true to yourself? That sounds like a dream come true, or like an absolute nightmare because we are always told all of these impossible limiting beliefs:

– Money doesn’t grow on trees (my favorite one, ha)
– You gotta work hard to deserve money
– Successful people are greedy & bad
– Successful people are either born rich or walked over dead bodies to get there

You get the point. So with all of these limiting beliefs, how are we supposed to be successful & stay true to ourselves?

Well, first things first. Let’s define what each of these even means to us, so we know what we are in for.

1| What does “being successful” mean to you?

To me “being successful” may mean something completely different than to you.

So when you are thinking of achieving success, what do you think of? What do you feel?

(And try by thinking of YOUR personal fulfillment, not the one you have been brainwashed into from society for all the years)

Does it mean:
Financial Success
– Define: How much do you need to make per month to feel successful? How much needs to end up in your bank account? What will you do with it? How will it make you feel?

Personal Relationships
– Define: What type of people do you want personal relationships with? What is the level of commitment you’d like to achieve? How many people do you want to have a relationship like this with?

Business Success
– Define: How does this success look like? Is it a big team? Big impact? Loads of revenue? What is the exact number? What are you getting out of it?

Health
– Define: Do you want to run an Iron Man every 6 months? Do you want to live as healthy and long as possible? Do you want to follow a certain diet? Do you want to climb Mount Everest?

There are so many areas of your life that you should take into account.

To get a very clear picture of what success looks like, take a look at these 12 areas and be as clear as possible about what it would look like for you if you were successful in all of these:

1. The Self
2. Your body
3. Love / Partnership
4. Spirituality / Faith
5. Career / Business
6. Money / Investment
7. Time
8. Home
9. Family
10. Friends
11. Fun & Adventure
12. Contribution / Giving Back

2| What does “staying true to yourself” mean?

Now we want to look at what YOUR definition of “staying true to yourself” looks like.

To get a better picture, we need to first answer one big question: Who are you?

Very often we are answering these questions with what we do, rather than with who we truly are. So today I would like to help you explore this question. To do so, how about answering these questions for a start:

1. What would you say are your 3-5 core values?
2. What are your top 3 pillar beliefs that guide you through life?
3. What are your top 3-5 positive traits?
4. What are the 3 most unhealthy traits you have?
5. How are you contributing to this world?
6. If you would die in 6 months – what would you do all day long (if time & money were no issue)?

3| ALIGNMENT

Once you answered all the questions above it’s a matter of aligning your meaning of success with the version of you and sticking to both.

That means you are implementing your core values in every area of your life. If you are falling back in one or more areas, make a plan on how to improve these step by step.

A great way to assess and track your values and life goals is the exercise called ‘Wheel of Life’ .

It is a coaching tool that has been used for a long time to help people understand their life path better and how they can improve their lives step by step without the overwhelm.

I teach this in the Time Alchemy Kollektiv and share examples and a worksheet for you to do this for yourself.

CONCLUSION

It’s absolutely possible to be successful by your own means while staying true to yourself – in fact, I personally believe that ONLY when you are staying true to yourself and creating your own path, can you be truly successful.

What do you say? Leave a comment below how success looks like for you!